Maybe the title of the post was enough to give you a shock for once, and then look around you to see if anyone was watching over your laptop screen. Of course, we have been raised in a society where talking about sex is a taboo. Sex is like that bad itching area, which everyone wants to scratch but no one wants to talk about it in public. Obviously, talking about sex in public is against our so called "culture", it is filthy for young children and maybe it will brand you characterless.
But few people will realize that the major lacuna in our upbringing is the lack of formal sex education. And of course, a country where talking about sex brings misanthropic smiles or bestriding looks, you cannot expect to impart sex education. In fact, girls are almost considered to be asexual when it comes to their sexual desires and explicitly discussing sex might not make them a very good prospective daughter-in law.
The question is why did I bring up this topic at all? Basically because I wanted to put spotlight on the taboo aspect of openly discussing sex and sexuality. Yes, it troubles me to see that the highest judicial court of our country fails to acknowledge a form of sexual orientation altogether. Yes, it is very disheartening to see that a girl on menstrual cycle is made to sit in isolation and (in some very orthodox households) to an extent of not even entering the kitchen because she is 'impure'. However we have been extremely unsuccessful as a society to acknowledge the basic facts that people of different sexuality than ours also co-exist and menstruation process of a girl enables her to give the most beautiful gift to the world - the gift of life!
It is this repressed sexual desire that leads to horrendous crimes like rapes and child abuse. The lack of knowledge of protected sex is the primary reason of the spread of HIV AIDS. Two inter-related facts that I read somewhere highlight this - it goes that in Karnataka, only 30-35% women know about female condoms and another study reveals that Karnataka has the highest percentage of HIV AIDS affected population of our country!
People who know about protected sex also fail to comprehend the usefulness once they are married and see it as some kind of power to assert. And the same people when leave their houses shout out loud, 'God, there are so many people around here in India!'. Whoa! Welcome to India!
It is sad that the land of 'Kamasutra' is today engulfed in a thinking so narrow and cramped, that it is almost disgusting. Khushwant Singh once said, "Indians have sex in their heads and not between their legs!"
I can't help but agree, because we think about it so much, that our actions have become furtive now and sex has become something dirty, filthy and tabooed. So let us not ignore the topic with our future generations at least. Let us move towards a more open society which is safe for women and liberal for people with varied sexual orientations. There is nothing wrong in SEX, let us see when the change comes about!
But few people will realize that the major lacuna in our upbringing is the lack of formal sex education. And of course, a country where talking about sex brings misanthropic smiles or bestriding looks, you cannot expect to impart sex education. In fact, girls are almost considered to be asexual when it comes to their sexual desires and explicitly discussing sex might not make them a very good prospective daughter-in law.
The question is why did I bring up this topic at all? Basically because I wanted to put spotlight on the taboo aspect of openly discussing sex and sexuality. Yes, it troubles me to see that the highest judicial court of our country fails to acknowledge a form of sexual orientation altogether. Yes, it is very disheartening to see that a girl on menstrual cycle is made to sit in isolation and (in some very orthodox households) to an extent of not even entering the kitchen because she is 'impure'. However we have been extremely unsuccessful as a society to acknowledge the basic facts that people of different sexuality than ours also co-exist and menstruation process of a girl enables her to give the most beautiful gift to the world - the gift of life!
It is this repressed sexual desire that leads to horrendous crimes like rapes and child abuse. The lack of knowledge of protected sex is the primary reason of the spread of HIV AIDS. Two inter-related facts that I read somewhere highlight this - it goes that in Karnataka, only 30-35% women know about female condoms and another study reveals that Karnataka has the highest percentage of HIV AIDS affected population of our country!
People who know about protected sex also fail to comprehend the usefulness once they are married and see it as some kind of power to assert. And the same people when leave their houses shout out loud, 'God, there are so many people around here in India!'. Whoa! Welcome to India!
It is sad that the land of 'Kamasutra' is today engulfed in a thinking so narrow and cramped, that it is almost disgusting. Khushwant Singh once said, "Indians have sex in their heads and not between their legs!"
I can't help but agree, because we think about it so much, that our actions have become furtive now and sex has become something dirty, filthy and tabooed. So let us not ignore the topic with our future generations at least. Let us move towards a more open society which is safe for women and liberal for people with varied sexual orientations. There is nothing wrong in SEX, let us see when the change comes about!
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